A. CLEARING UNRESOLVED MATTERS

Past Experiences - what we did, didn't do, should have done, did poorly or wrongly -- is always with us in some way. In this section, you get clear with the past, doing what you can, and letting go of the rest. You are not your past, yet may still be living as if you are.

· Feels free of what they've done, yet responsible for it all
· Can be with themselves, as they are today. No compensating.
· Is able to set their goals and reach them more easily

· Continue to repeat it in some new way.
· React to Unresolved Matters from the past instead of flowing with life.

B. RESTORE INTEGRITY

To be our best, we must be whole: that is, be responsible for our actions and inactions, respond fully to the lessons being offered to us, honor our bodies and our selves and respect the realities of the physical universe.

· He/she experiences fewer problems.
· Consistent feelings of peace, health and emotional balance are present.
· He/she reacts to others very little.

· Disturbances occur regularly.
· Others are blamed, criticized; one reacts a lot to others.

C. GET YOUR NEEDS MET

We know we all need air, water, shelter, love, food -- These are our physical needs. But what about our Personal Needs? These are things we must have to be ourselves, but somehow have not been able to get "enough" of. Now, it is possible to do.

· They have room and love for other people; no competing.
· Dramatic sense of self-confidence without arrogance.
· Wants naturally decrease: No compulsions, musts.

· Much time is wasted trying to get needs partially met.
· One attracts needy people.

D. EXTEND BOUNDARIES

Boundaries are imaginary lines we establish around ourselves to protect our souls, hearts and minds from the unhealthy or damaging behavior of others. It is recommended to extend your boundaries at least two or three times beyond where they are.

· Fear diminishes significantly; trust is rarely an issue.
· Willing, healthy family members & true friends respect these.
· They start growing more emotionally and developmentally.

· They attract needy, disrespectful people into their lives.
· The waste much energy to keeping life going.

E. RAISE STANDARDS

Personal Standards refer to the behavior and actions you are willing to hold yourself to. You'll find as you work on areas A-D of the Personal Foundation program that you'll much more easily expect (and enjoy) more of yourself and of your behavior.

· They feel very, very good about themselves, and others, too.
· They become irresistibly attractive to high quality people.
· They don't get near people/situations which cause problems.

· Continues to operate "below the line" emotionally.
· Self-esteem drops; self-worth is questioned.

F. STOP TOLERATING

Humans tolerate a lot. Often, we're taught not to complain, that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have, to be understanding. Not bad advice, but we can still stop tolerating what is bugging us!

· They are happier, more fun to be around.
· They have extra energy to express their values vs their egos.
· They have the Edge: they overlook nothing.

· They and their work becomes mediocre; people are tired.
· Natural creativity is squashed.

G. COME FROM POSITIVES

There is a wonderful feeling that comes from making the shift from the problems in life to "getting" that life is pretty good. This shift may take time, development and a high score on the Personal Foundation program, but you'll get there! I promise!

· They still live in reality, but choose to live a better way.
· They create more positive things happening to them.

· Nothing is good enough, especially oneself.
· Problems are attracted, like bees to honey.

H. STRENGTHEN FAMILY

Family, whether biological or chosen, is an important part of our Personal Foundation. Why? Because we need to know we belong, that we are loved, that we can afford to take risks in life because we know there are key people behind and with us.

· More needs are met, automatically.
· Values are expressed more often.

· One doubts oneself more often.

I. STRONG COMMUNITY

Nothing worth doing is worth doing alone. Given that, it helps to have a strong personal and professional community; people you can share your love, life, dreams and concerns with to a level of intimacy once reserved for family.

· Well-rounded, well-connected, reserve in case of trouble.
· Expands their personal and professional horizons.
· Moves in new, more rewarding directions.

· Relies excessively on family members to meet needs.
· Misses out on opportunities for personal/professional growth.

J. RE-ORIENT ON VALUES

As you strengthen your Personal Foundation, you'll find yourself having a lot more time, energy and space in your life. What to do with this? Start fully expressing yourself by setting goals based on your Tru Values.

· Goal setting is easier and goals reached more quickly.
· Their life purpose/vision comes to them clearly.
· Fewer distractions occur; life is simple, but rich.

· Frustrated in goals area; lacking strong reference point in life.
· Goals, wants, ideas keep changing.

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